• Debbie

    I am a seminary student who is recovering from emotional trauma due to past church abuse and abuse from Christian family members and homeschool co-ops. I ultimately had to walk away, brushing the dust off my feet like Jesus said to do, and find a new community in my seminary and in my home church. My current pastor tells me that I did the right thing. He is encouraging gradual forgiveness for my case. In trauma instances especially, it is a gradual releasing. It involves the subconscious. Therefore, I found this article, with its focus on immediate forgiveness and blaming those who hold onto the pain as if it is a totally conscious thing, a bit thin for trauma issues.

  • Mary

    Good article, though a bit on the side of a pat answer and quick fix. I would love to see more churches, organizations, and individuals come along side a wounded warrior for the Kingdom and give even half the support we give our US soldiers. It takes time to recover. Forgiveness is only a small piece of the process. There is also need for friendship, encouragement, a safe place for honesty and to process pain, and skilled healers to walk alongside the wounded. We challenge our youth to minister; we fund and encourage their training; yet sadly, we often ignore their pain or struggles or burnout when they have finally reached the ministry we have pushed them towards. What difference do we see when we look at the face of a child and that of an adult?

  • mr Goldsmith

    thank the heavenly father for the goodness he did by availing Prophet TB Joshua to the world ,you know this man brings out the darkness in people.I want to tell how i appreciated the deliverance of Pastor johnson442@gmail.com(correct me if the name is wrong)18/11/2012 where the lady testified of having stopped smoking 7 days ago after delivery.You know i was pained by the fact that how many of us go to such people for deliverance and guidance only to learn someone has such deeds behind closed doors.(what qualifies someone to be a prophetess?For i still believe that in prayer we can always prevail.When you get ordained to such position but you still have some dealings with the underworld is it not best to take time off the Godly work and attend your own challenges but though we know the Bible speaks against looking for the speck in someone’s eye but i wish they could have seeked the deliverance first before.Thanks Prophet for delivering them and stay in prayer with the warriors so that these spirits of darkness are revealed and you continue this work of God and bring light to the world and it scares me to see how many pastors are delivered each Sunday for i know that the devil attacks them for their journey with the Lord you can contact him pastorjohnson442@gmail.com

  • Jean Brice Alain Adje

    In my life, of course I was wouned by the attitude of my father.
    But on the contrary, this has brought me to fight to succed so that he sees that without him God will do something for me. I did not have it in my heart to get back at him. but I wanted to go to school like my friends to succeed in the life.
    Today, it allows me to show in my preaching to look for God and accept him in the difficulties without looking back for fear the devil isolate us from the ways of God to destroy us.
    It is not easy but we must agree to do so because without God, it is better to stop living. And as he is always there, we must believe even if we do not feel his presence.
    One day in 2002, I complained to God in these words: <> And I realized that God was transforming me to put me in his service.
    A friend of the street who is not too interested in the church was astonished to see me after receiving my Baccalaureat years later.
    Those who saw me yesterday in my difficulties when I stopped going to school have a very great respect for me and even some fear after the death of my father, who had declared that during his lifetime, I would not succeed in my life.
    Some of them have started to give their lives to God concretely.
    My life is a great testimony that Jesus-Christ is true. Because I told him that if he does nothing for me, it means that it is not stronger than the devil.
    But what I understood in this whole affair is that we must necessarily live in holiness. Living in sin will not allow God to get us out of the grip of the devil. And what people do not know is that sin is above all, the FALSE. And God is not and does not act in the FALSE.
    The cunning of the devil is to put us into the false and we pray intensely and fast to hope unsuccessfully in God. And this is what happens in the life of almost all Christians.
    All my problem today is that I was not in God’s will after my Baccalaureat. My Baccalaureat was a great fight because my father had said I would not succeed in my Baccalaureat. And the day I went to the composition of the examination I was very sick but the Lord Jesus Christ glorifies his name because I got 222 points out of 400.
    Today, it is you God has placed on my path to give me what I need in this moment et especially to teach me many things.

    God bless you.

  • Val

    Thank you Pstr. Rick for this article, this truth has set me free! To God be the glory!

  • Being hurt or having a promise broken by a person is easy to overlook. But having this done by “god” is another thing. It’s a long story & I won’t go into it here. But I now know that “he” doesn’t care, doesn’t answer prayer, and doesn’t even exist. I am so much happier now that after 48 years, I am free from fairytales.

  • Harry Poindexter

    While I agree with what is written here, it strikes me as a bit thin. This just touches the surface of ways that pastors and leaders can experience woundedness and also gives a somewhat simplistic response (although not incorrect). I would encourage you to look into this in more depth. It has powerful ramifications for the church, its leaders and her congregations. Thank you for all you do!
    Harry Poindexter

  • Stan Fletcher

    Pastor Warren,
    Rick Muchow asked me to come sing at your church in 2006. I had been betrayed and deeply hurt just prior to that by my pastor in Seattle where I was a worship pastor for ten years. We were the best of friends and it stung badly. I resigned, not having a place to go. I had two beautiful children and a great wife. Rick called me and said that he had been praying about me coming and he needed to un-invite me. God had made it clear to him. Shortly thereafter, I accepted a position at a church in Scottsdale, but I was too angry, bitter and resentful to serve. I went into a deep, suicidal depression. To make a long story short, all of this escalated and eventually cost me my marriage, my ministry, my house – everything. Some five years later I am just now beginning to feel that God can use me again, possibly combining music with mental health issues. This article really resonated with me… Thank you.
    Stan Fletcher

  • Nate Wheeler

    I don’t think forgiveness is the answer. It’s a part of the answer and it’s something we can control. That is, do we choose to forgive or not. I think the healing really comes when we stop defining ourselves by our past and trying to earn favor from the ones that hurt us. We can forgive people, but never move on. Forgiveness is a step, but not the cure-all in abusive church relationships.

    • Joe Grist

      Good comment…

  • WOW, the timing of this truth couldn’t be more perfect…AWESOME!

  • I’m not a pastor, but this is a good reminder for parishoners, too.

  • Hess Hester

    A wonderful means of finding the healing in Christ that Rick speaks of here is found at CPRPastors.com . Forming small groups for pastors utilizing the 12 Step curriculum of Celebrate Recovery. Check it out!

  • Dave

    In a twisted way I find myself taking comfort in my pain because it gives me an excuse for why I don’t lead my congregation as I should. I needed to read this today, and so I thank God for putting it before me.