• Paula Wilcox

    Thank you for the article and insights. You mentioned a child who is legally independent. What if they should be but they are still living at home and are not independent. If they keep making mistakes financially and emotionally. How does a parent know how much financial help to give for the adult child that still lives at home?

  • Tinia

    This is really good. My husband and I have dealt with a rebellious son for over 12 years…since he was 14 and he’s just turning 26. He just can’t seem to get his life together. This is a very good perspective Rick! However, what’s tough is when they keep falling and then keep coming back expecting the same welcome matt every time. The tough love thing is what has worked for us. Facts not feelings….”You’re acting like a lunatic and doing drugs, don’t come around when you’re high or drunk. When you’re sober, feel free to come over, but do NOT come home high or drunk, period—Love you bye!”.
    It’s worked for a tiny bit, but even those build scars upon scars that are hard to not bring bitterness and a cold approach. I have to keep my focus and my and husband and I have to remain focused on our marriage and our own journeys. We feel like the eternal mommy and daddy. I have other kids and they are not this difficult to be around at all. God help us all who have to deal with this kind of child. It takes a tremendous about of grace :)