You can learn a lot about leaders by listening to how they pray. In Nehemiah 1, we get to listen in on a prayer from Nehemiah, one of the Bible’s best leaders.
When Nehemiah first heard about the fall of Jerusalem, he prayed for four months. He didn’t pray casually; he gave us a pattern for praying successfully. If you want to know how to pray, study the book of Nehemiah—particularly this model prayer.
Here is what we can learn about how to pray from Nehemiah’s prayer.
1. Base your request on God’s character. “O LORD, God of heaven, the great and awesome God who keeps his covenant of unfailing love with those who love him and obey his commands . . .” (Nehemiah 1:5 NLT).
Start off praying like you know God will answer you: “I’m expecting you to answer this prayer because of who you are. You are a faithful God. You are a great God. You are a loving God. You are a wonderful God. You can handle this problem, God!”
Notice that Nehemiah says three specific things about God:
You’re great (recognizing God’s position).
You’re awesome (recognizing his power).
You keep your promises (recognizing God’s covenant).
Nehemiah begins with the right perspective about the character of God.
2. Confess the sin in your life. “I confess that we have sinned against you. Yes, even my own family and I have sinned! We have sinned terribly by not obeying the commands, decrees, and regulations that you gave us through your servant Moses” (Nehemiah 1:6–7 NLT).
Nehemiah confesses his own personal sin, his family sin, and the nation’s sin. We tend to be very individualistic today. We’re taught to confess our own sins—not corporate sins. When was the last time you confessed the sins of your family, your church, or your nation?
Our society has taught us we’re only responsible for ourselves, but that’s just not true! You are your brother’s keeper. We are all in this together. If you want to be a leader, you accept the blame and share the credit.
3. Claim the promises of God. “Please remember what you told your servant Moses: ‘If you are unfaithful to me, I will scatter you among the nations. But if you return to me and obey my commands and live by them, then even if you are exiled to the ends of the earth, I will bring you back to the place I have chosen for my name to be honored’” (Nehemiah 1:8–9 NLT).
Can you imagine saying “remember” to God? Nehemiah is reminding God of what he said in the past. Does God have to be reminded of his promises? Of course not. But we do. Nothing pleases God more than when you remind God of one of his promises. When you remind God of his promises, you show him that you know what he has promised!
4. Make specific requests. “O Lord, please hear my prayer! Listen to the prayers of those of us who delight in honoring you. Please grant me success today by making the king favorable to me. Put it into his heart to be kind to me” (Nehemiah 1:11 NLT).
For God to answer specific prayers, you need to make specific requests. Otherwise, you’ll never know if God answers them.
Nehemiah prays boldly for success. You may be hesitant to do that, but there is nothing wrong with praying for success if your aim is ultimately the glory of God.
If you can’t ask God to make you a success at what you’re doing, do something else. God doesn’t want you to waste your life. Make specific requests with the aim of God’s glory and watch to see how God will answer them.