10 Symptoms of Emotionally Unhealthy Spirituality

By Derwin Gray

DENYING THE PAST’S IMPACT ON THE PRESENT

  • When we receive Jesus, we are regenerated, justified, redeemed, glorified, forever forgiven, and baptized by the Spirit into the Body of Christ.
  • But this doesn’t mean that our past and origin of family won’t continue to influence us.
  • Growing in grace is the ability to let Jesus’ past accomplishments to influence us.

DIVIDING OUR LIVES INTO “SECULAR” AND “SACRED” COMPARTMENTS

  • “Church members divorce their spouses as often as their secular neighbors.” pg. 30
  • “Church members giving patterns indicate they are almost as materialistic as non-Christians.” pg. 30

DOING FOR GOD INSTEAD OF BEING WITH GOD

  • Ministry that is not rooted in God’s unconditional love and grace and His acceptance of us based on Jesus alone, will be polluted by ego trips and approval addiction from others.
  • Our supreme joy must be Jesus.  The overflow of enjoying Jesus is ministry.

 SPIRITUALIZING AWAY CONFLICT

  • “Say one thing to people’s face and then another behind their backs.” pg. 33
  • “Make promises we have no intention of keeping.” pg. 33
  • “Blame, attack, and give people the silent treatment.” pg. 33
  • “Tell only half the truth because we can’t bear to hurt a person’s feelings.” pg. 33
  • “Avoid and withdraw and cut people off.” pg. 33
  • “People please out of fear of not being liked.” 33

COVERING OVER BROKENNESS, WEAKNESS, AND FAILURE

  • Out of the fear of, “If people really knew me, they would reject me.”  Therefore, we hide our sin instead of being honest about sin. And we can’t be honest people if we aren’t  rooted in Jesus’ unconditional love.  Grace is amazing.

LIVING WITHOUT BOUNDARIES

  • “Jesus did not heal every sick person in Palestine.  He did not raise every dead person.  He did not feed all the hungry beggars or set up job development centers for the poor of Jerusalem.” pg. 35.
  • Boundaries are healthy.  There is only one Messiah, and He is not me or you.

JUDGING OTHER PEOPLE’S SPIRITUAL JOURNEY

  • We must never forget the grace that Jesus gave us.  If we do, we won’t extend grace to others.  Condemnation never made anyone fall in love with Jesus.

As a leader, I want to not only be theological and philosophically sharp; I want to be emotionally mature and healthy.  If I’m healthy, Transformation Church will be healthy.