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Most of you reading this already know of the tragic loss that Rick and Kay and the entire Warren family have suffered this weekend in the loss of their youngest son, Matthew, who took his own life. Pastor Rick wrote these words to the Saddleback family:

To my dear Saddleback Family,

Over the past 33 years we’ve been together through every kind of crisis. Kay and I’ve been privileged to hold your hands as you faced a crisis or loss, stand with you at gravesides, and prayed for you when ill. Today, we need your prayer for us.

No words can express the anguished grief we feel right now. Our youngest son, Matthew, age 27, and a lifelong member of Saddleback, died today.

You who watched Matthew grow up knew he was an incredibly kind, gentle, and compassionate man. He had a brilliant intellect and a gift for sensing who was most in pain or most uncomfortable in a room. He’d then make a beeline to that person to engage and encourage them.

But only those closest knew that he struggled from birth with mental illness, dark holes of depression, and even suicidal thoughts. In spite of America’s best doctors, meds, counselors, and prayers for healing, the torture of mental illness never subsided. Today, after a fun evening together with Kay and me, in a momentary wave of despair at his home, he took his life.

Kay and I often marveled at his courage to keep moving in spite of relentless pain. I’ll never forget how, many years ago, after another approach had failed to give relief, Matthew said, “Dad, I know I’m going to heaven. Why can’t I just die and end this pain?” but he kept going for another decade.

Thank you for your love and prayers. We love you back.

The entire Saddleback family, and a world of people impacted by the Warrens’ global ministry are mourning with them and praying for them. If you would like to add your condolences, the best place to do so is on Pastor Rick’s Facebook page, as a comment on this post.

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  • John Philips

    Its shocking to know when someone takes his life. But at the same moment, it gives me confidence when he was absolutely sure that he was going to Heaven. How I wished that I could atleast dream of going to Heaven. May God Bless his Soul and take him with him. Halleluah! Jesus!

  • John Rowlett

    Dear brother Rick. John Rowlett here – Steve Williams (Northpointe Church-Fresno)- friend and pastor.
    Was thinking and praying for you and Kay.
    Hug your wife for my wife (Vickie) and I.
    It is like she was given just a glimpse of Mary watching her son pay the price for us.
    And you, dear brother, just a tiny glimpse of what God The Father might have felt, when His Son paid the price.
    I don’t know for sure, but when he called our 19 year old son home a very few years ago, I think we got that glimpse too.
    Serving Him with you, and for you.
    Dear dear ones.
    love, John and Vickie

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  • Patricia Patey

    May you feel the strength and love of our wonderful Lord at this sad time!

  • William Brown

    You Warren Family are a great example in my life!! I want to be like you!!! And of course i will pray for you.

  • Harris Long

    I Know that words are never enough in times like these. I have appreciated your wisdom over the years. As pastor who lost a church member to murder earlier this year, my prayers and love go out to you and your family. i know God will bless you and get you through this “valley of the shadow of death.” blessings.

  • Pastor Ezra Paudyal,from Nepal

    Dear Rev. Pastor Rick Warren, I’m so saddened to hear the loss of your son and pray that God will give you and the whole family strength to go through this difficult time!

  • Babychen Varghese

    Pastor Rick, No words of mine is sufficient to bring any comfort as you deeply grieve the home going of your beloved son. But we pray for you and your family that the peace of our Lord may richly dwell in you through the enabling hand of our God the Holy Spirit. Love you.
    Babychen Varghese

  • Florence

    Pastor Rick and family please just know much you are loved and fully appreciated and respected for who you are and your consistent witness. Your ability to show your scars is refreshing and encouraging. The Lord bless, keep and strengthen you at this time of loss and always.

  • Chidi JC Abiakweh

    We at the Dominion Faith Ministries, Southampton, United Kingdom love you Pastor Rick and your entire family. We are standing with you and our God is still the Almighty God. IN EVERYTHING we give Him thanks. Stay strong for the rest of the family. We are praying for you.

  • Sarah

    Our family is grieving with yours. Please know we care.

  • Jeffrey Elmore

    My love goes out to the entire family. I have never met any of the Warren family in person, but Pastor Rick and Kay have made a difference in my life and those I teach. When I was 4 my Dad committed suicide? Everyone told me he was a very Godly man, but a history of depression. I look forward to seeing Matthew and my Dad in heaven someday.

  • Carlton Brown

    Dear Pastor Rick, obviously you don’t know me personally but you have been a source of tremendous encouragement to me personally and the resources you have made available to the body of Christ I have used to be a blessing to those whom I have served. my prayer is that the Grace and Love of God will sustain and enfold your family now more than ever before as you personally go through what must be a most difficult period in your life. I know that God’s Grace is sufficient but I also know that you will turn this tragedy into triumph for the kingdom.
    God’s Grace ns Shalom be multiplied in your lives now and always.
    A Fellow servant, Carlton Brown, York SC

  • Vadya :)

    Pastor Warren no words can say the comfort for you and your family. May Jesus cover you and hold your hand through this. From Life Christian Church in Tacoma WA, we are praying.

  • Anthony

    My beloved brothers and sisters I too have walked the dark path you are travelling down now. I can and do say with full confidence “This too will pass.”
    I love you and You are in my prayers every morning.

  • Cindy Tilkens-Jennings

    We cried when we heard of your sorrow. We are praying and know God is now closer to you than your breath. He sits with you. He stands with you. He is your constant companion and carrys you through this time of great sorrow. When my husband Jim was dying from cancer… we fought it four years. During that time Purposed Driven Life encouraged us and after reading it, we started a small group. You were such a powerful positive influence through your own faithfulness to God. Thank You. Prayers are going up for you NOW from millions who feel as I do. When Jim died, God sat with me, and was closer than my own breath… though I was numb. Love to you and Kay from Central Oregon.

  • CarlosTorres, Patagonia Arg.

    May God’s infinite love sorround you during this terrible time of loss. We are praying for you and your family.

  • Ray Carr

    Pastor Rick, The thought and prayers are with you from Baptist Center Church in Clayton NC. You are in a very good place now to minister to your people as you experience a pain that no book or seminar can teach you. May God’s comfort and peace rest with you, your family and your church.

  • iliahigirl

    May God continue to wrap His loving arms around your `ohana (family). My heart hurts for you all. We continue to pray for you all.

  • Mary & Bill Slattery

    Dear Warren Family – our hearts cry out for you in this time of pain and overwhelming sadness. I can’t imagine what you are going through, but I know that God the Father understands completely what it is to lose a beloved Son. As you cry out to the Father I pray Jesus and the Holy Spirit comfort you and begin to replace the grief with overwhelming love, peace and grace. Even now as you walk through this dark time, you are ministering to many. In fact one of my dear friends just lost her daughter to suicide a week ago. I feel sure that this family is or will drawing strength from watching your family hold on to hope as walk through the same thing. Thank you for your ministry to me over the years!! God bless your precious family. Bill & Mary, Houston, TX

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