Share The Load

By Brett Eastman

Dividing Responsibilities Not Only Eases Your Leadership Burden, It Helps Your Group Members Growpic1

First Corinthians 12:7 says that God gives every believer spiritual gifts for the common good of the body. But if your small group is like most, it’s led by just one person—you! Not that you’re probably complaining, but that’s a huge burden. Aside from that, it’s also keeping everyone else from growing in their gifts.

The load usually falls on one person because many leaders feel like the only way to get things done is to do it themselves. And it doesn’t occur to group members to volunteer because they don’t know that taking on a responsibility is part of being a full member of God’s family. This contributes to group members thinking they don’t have any spiritual gifts because they’ve never had a chance to experiment.

So tactically, how do you motivate people to step up to the plate and discover their gifts in the process?

1. Read through Acts 2 as a group and talk about that community’s demonstration of all five purposes of the church. Just as that community brought the purposes into their homes—not just into the temple—so should all five purposes be going on in your group. And this requires group “load sharing.”

2. Deal with shared ownership in a developmental way. Take into account people’s spiritual age. If they’re seekers—not even sure if they believe in Christ—don’t ask them to do anything. Just welcome them in the group. If they’re new believers, give them a small role. Don’t overwhelm them. If you’ve got mature believers, you can dump the truck on them. They can certainly handle it.

Also take into account your small group stage. If your group is brand new, give people baby-step responsibilities. Perhaps you can have a potluck and let everyone bring something. The balance here is that you don’t want people afraid to show up next week because they feel overwhelmed with responsibility. If your group has been together for a while, you can nudge people a little more to take on something bigger. A good first step would be to pass out a sign-up sheet for helping with the group’s worship time.

3. Don’t expect people to go it alone. Jesus sent the disciples out in pairs. You can ask a couple of people to team up to host a social evening for your group. Or ask two people to share the job of coordinating the prayer list. Teaming up makes it much less scary for people.

The best time to ask people to take on a role is right after a great group meeting. Nine out of ten will say yes to a responsibility if you ask them then. Ask them to do it for the next three weeks—not forever. Or ask people to coordinate one project. If you ask members for help and the room goes quiet, don’t just drop it. Follow up with people after the meeting.

If you’re nervous to ask for help, remember the Holy Spirit will be right there with you every step of the way.

Brett Eastman

Brett Eastman

Brett Eastman has served as the small groups champion in several of the largest mega churches in the country including Saddleback Church, Willow Creek and Fellowship of the Woodlands for over a dozen years. After founding Lifetogether - 10 years ago he has either consulted and/or produced Custom DVD Curriculum and training materials for 100 of the largest and fastest growing churches in America. He has published with the top 10 Christian Publishers, produced over 250 bestselling series, designed dozens of church wide campaigns, and produced on camera over 500 bestselling authors, pastors and church leaders selling over 4,000,000 copies to date including the Award Winning Purpose Driven Group Series, Doing Lifetogether Series published by Zondervan. Lifetogether's focus is to partner with local church pastors trying to help connect their entire congregation by producing innovative small group resources in order to ultimately reach their community through community.