Someone once asked “Are you going through life or are you growing through life?” I love that question. Right now I am going through significant transition in how I lead. I have never been more motivated by the maxim, “If you are doing what you did last year, you’re not growing.”
One of the greatest growth challenges for any leader is the ability to empower and release others. While I constantly aspire to raise up others, I am consistently amazed at the conditions of my heart that hold me back. Specifically there are four internal barriers that I must consciously work through. Maybe one of these is stopping you right now.
Why do we stop empowering others?
#1 Empowerment increases the scope of unknown ministry outcomes.
As soon as you give some else the steering wheel, you don’t know which road they are going to take. How is your own need of control keeping you from a step of delegation? How can you develop your faith and take a calculated risk with one of your leaders?
#2 Empowerment requires a sacrifice of short-term ministry efficiency.
Chances are, you are not only good at what you do, you are also fast!…Continue Reading
Let’s be real, leadership ain’t easy. It can be tough, lonely, and bring us to many dark roads. The demands cause many to hang it up and quit altogether. They decide it’s not worth it anymore. When you get to that place, Go to this place.
4 things to keep you from quitting.
Q – Quiet (Be still and know that I am God) – Time with God is essential at anytime, especially when you’re at the end of your rope. Go to a place, be quite, and let your Creator speak to you. Let him speak admiration, conviction, direction, and whatever else He needs to. Why do you need it to be quiet? So that nothing keeps you from HEARING Him.
U – Unplug – Keep it quiet. Unplug every connection to any source that is draining to you. Your laptop, your iPad, your phone, your email, your video chat, anything that is tethering you to the world. Now, of course, don’t be stupid, you’ll have to plan ahead in order to do it, but you can make this happen… you MUST. Unplug from the world, let everyone know that you can’t…Continue Reading
Pastor, you will always have critics, and you will always have fans. At the end of the day, you need to have the guts to believe neither, but rather to allow your affirmation to flow only from the truth God has declared about you in His Word.Continue Reading
We all do do things to build our team and make sure they are ready for the ministry that support our vision. Doing things such as equipping & developing leaders is critical. That is some of the deeper responsibility that will result in a thriving team.
But there are things we can do every week which will help our team thrive – and result in you being their hero! Here are a few ideas:
- Show appreciation tangibly. We all appreciate our team, but too often we don’t actually show it. Show them! It could be an intentional pat on the back and thank you, a personal, hand-written card (hands down the best way to show appreciation), public recognition, or some other creative way you choose.
- Solve problems. One of the quickest paths to influence is to solve people’s problems. In your ministry – if it’s anything like mine has been – you have dozens of problems come your way every week. Finding ways to be a problem solver will carry you a long, long way with your team. You don’t have to be the one who actually solves the problem, but find a way to get…
Ask a victim of burnout what led to their demise. Chances are, they will include some sort of interpersonal conflict with one or more other people. Unresolved conflict saps the energy from the best of us. It’s intimidating. It’s depressing.
For a lot of people, the problem is simply the fact that they don’t know what to say or do. The unknown becomes the tail that wags the proverbial dog. Let’s end this. Here are three phrases you can begin to use that will normalize conflict:
1) “When you do _____…” Be very specific here. Don’t bring up other actions the person does that bugs you.
2) “I feel _____.” Be honest. State in simple facts what the person’s action does to you.
3) “I’d like you to _____.” Ask the person to take a different path.
Example: “When you wear that loud shirt I can’t stop laughing enough to get my work done. I’d like you to consider wearing it at times other than work.”
Another Example: “When you talk down to me like that, I feel demoralized. I’d like you to communicate with me using more dignity.
Now, just walking up to the person and saying…Continue Reading
Confession: I’m an introvert. Now I know it is hard for some people to believe, but I would rather be alone than in a big group most of the time. Many introverts assume that because they’d rather be alone, they will never become a good networker. I couldn’t disagree more.
I think it is untrue that it takes a complete extrovert to be a good networker. Extroverts do have some advantages because they are good at getting in a room and meeting the most people. However, some extroverts are so consumed with meeting people that they never connect in a personal, relational way.
Introverts usually get a bad rap since we only make up about 24-40% of the population. However, according to this study, introverts make up a majority of the gifted population.
Networking for introverts is simple… use the personality God gave you and leverage it for others.
Here are some tips I’ve learned along the way for introverts who are committed to networking with others:
- Make sure you schedule time to be alone if you know you will be around a lot of people. It will help you get that needed alone time…
Dee’s role will be to champion the Daniel Plan throughout the church, focusing on every small group in order for people to ‘achieve a more healthy and balanced lifestyle.’ She will focus on the Health Champions within each group to foster additional training and coaching in adopting the Daniel Plan, and encouraging their peers to do the same.
An experienced leader, she brings her background as a fitness and wellness instructor, and has earned a Bachelor of Science-Health Science from San Diego State University. For the last few years she has worked on the wellness team and lead fitness classes at the Montage Resort in Laguna Beach.
The Daniel Plan is not just another “diet”. It’s a lifestyle based on the biblical story of Daniel, who forsook the king’s rich food in order to honor God’s best for him and his friends. The Daniel Plan focuses on “The Simple Six” Core Principles, including the following:
CONNECT for Success – Get in touch with your health and with…Continue Reading
But that also means you must work to keep your congregation as conflict free as possible. Here are five ways to confront conflict, suggested by Paul in Philippians 2 —
1. Defuse competition. “Never act from motives of rivalry.” (Philippians 2:3, Phillips) Our society teaches us instant gratification. When my needs conflict with your needs, we have trouble. We live in a very competitive world. Too often we’re competing with people on our own ministry teams—instead of complimenting them. Many of us participated in sibling rivalry as a kid. The problem is, we’re doing the same thing today as adults. Those you serve with aren’t competitors; they’re family members – whether they’re fellow staff members, laypersons in your church or the pastor of the church down the street.
2. Delete conceit. “Never act from motives of personal vanity.” (Philippians 2:3, Phillips) To reduce conflict in your ministry, get rid of your prideful attitude. Don’t do what you do just to show…Continue Reading
We all guard against it. We hope it never happens. But sometime there is going to be a season when something earth-shattering happens in the life of a church body.
The examples are endless: The church treasurer is caught embezzling $40,000 from the mission fund. The worship pastor admits to having an affair with the pianist. Someone stands up in the middle of your sermon and starts shouting out obsenities… ouch!
What do you do when this sort of thing happens? How do you maintain composure in your leadership? The answer may surprise you. It’s not about planning your reaction the moment something like this happens. It’s about cultivating your heart ahead of time, over time.
Think of it this way: Hold a glass of water, arm stretched out straight. Now, shake your arm vigorously. What spills out? Water – exactly. Why? Because water was IN the glass, when shaken, water came OUT of the glass.
Here are couple ideas to fill your life with the right “water”:
~ Stay in the Word for yourself. The key here is “for yourself”. Don’t always be in the Word for “work”. Keep focused on how the scripture…Continue Reading
by Brett Eastman
Sally had been leading a small group for a few months when Jane, her small group coach, called her. Sally thought, That’s her job to call me; she really doesn’t care, and consequently, didn’t connect with her. A week later, Jane called again. This time Sally thought she was really nice but was still just doing her job.
Jane had to call Sally eight times before she believed Jane actually cared and wanted a relationship with her. As a leader, Sally was slow to warm up, slow to trust, and a little insecure. Had Jane given up on try seven, Sally may have given up on leadership and missed out on an edifying relationship with Jane. Jane went the distance and never gave up.
As a small group champion, you can never give up on your leaders. Stay as faithful as possible when ministering to your leaders. At the height of your frustration, you may think, These people don’t need me, but they do. In order to minister to them, though, you have to crack their heart’s code. To use the worn phrase, people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.
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Steve Gladen and Brett Eastman interview Dee Eastman (The Daniel Plan Director) about the Daniel Plan. Dee’s role will be to champion the Daniel Plan throughout the church, focusing on every small group in order for people to ‘achieve a more healthy and balanced lifestyle.’
Dee Eastman, Director of The Daniel Plan talks about getting into this month’s issue of Time Magazine
CLICK HERE to read the Full Article in Time Magazine
The impact of The Daniel Plan has been felt worldwide.
Watch this video to see “The Daniel Plan – One Year in Review”
Dave Barr, pastor of New Hope Windward, shares how 900 church members join groups for The Daniel Plan.
The 2012 Daniel Plan – Rally your community around weight loss and the truth of God’s Word
Every leader has a responsibility for planning, execution and moving ministry forward. And for those of us tasked with administrative or operational responsibilities, the responsibility is heightened. In these roles, visible, systematic progress is an indicator of role effectiveness.
This is not to say that I believe church or ministry growth is my responsibility, only God gives growth (1st Corinthians 3:7). However, when those with administrative gifting are employed in the body, the creation and execution of plans in anticipation of God’s growth becomes our responsibility.
Yet, in my own project management and support of high-level leaders, I’ve come to realize that the absence of a simple, clear, actionable plan handicaps growth more than anything. Without a planning system, dreams and visions have a funny way of staying dreams and visions. Leader, when God has given you a vision or dream, you need to translate it into a plan. Rigorous translation of dreams into plans is what good stewards do.
Consider – “For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and…Continue Reading