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Facts vs MythsWhy is it that so many pastors get rid of their single adult ministries because they think they are only about socializing? Is it because as a married person they wish they could also have some fun at church? Let me first clear up something. The success of a single adult ministry is not dependent on having any type of social per say. If a ministry is only based on socials then yes, it will fail. Social-only based ministries are typically not structured to build leaders, do a Bible study, and conduct prayer, etc. unless they are strategic fellowships. Strategic fellowships appear to be socials (to the outside world and even to some leadership of the church) but in fact they are geared to reach the loss and build the saved. These types of socials (cookouts, bowling and movie nights, hikes, road trips) can actually accentuate the existing ministry in reaching new people. It’s a way to create a gateway for them to come to church.

I think what happens in some churches is the appearance of your singles ministry seems to be more focused on the socials then on…

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In my previous articles (see part 1 & part 2), I shared with you three myths about single adults. Myth #1, we have more time than married adults; myth #2, we are less committed and myth #3, all singles are hurting and need to be fixed. In summary, single adults do have their fair share of problems and hurts; however, there is a myth that they have more than married adults. Because singles bring their problems to church, due…

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In my last article, I shared with you two myths about single adults. Myth #1, we have more time than married adults and myth #2, we are less committed. In summary, single adults have the same amount of time as any other adult however, depending on if they have kids or not, the use and flexibility of that time will vary. The fact that single adults are often blamed for being less committed has more to do with…

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I have been single my entire adult life. Because I am single, I have had a front row experience of how churches are reaching and growing singles adults. As a result, I have found that most churches simply did not know much about us nor how to reach us. After several years of serving on various singles ministry leadership teams as well as starting my own, God called me to help others do the same. Specifically to help reach the church, the pastors and staff; to educate and provide resources so that ALL churches would know how to reach singles. 

In my last article, I shared with you why there are so many single adults in our country. From the downward spiral of the values in our society, to the lack of leaders and parental figures to guide them to the enemies attack to good old fashion sin. Singleness is here and it continues to grow at an alarming rate. We do not have time to sit by thinking it will go down in numbers on it’s own. As a church we have to…

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SingleI have been single my entire adult life. Because I am single, I have had a front row experience of how churches are reaching and growing singles adults. As a result, I have found that most churches simply did not know much about us nor how to reach us. After several years of serving on various single’s ministry leadership teams as well as starting my own, God called me to help others do the same. Specifically to help reach the church, the pastors and staff; to educate and provide resources so that ALL churches would know how to reach singles. 

In my last article, I shared with you the statistics of young and single adults in our country. Half of all adults in the US are single (18 to the grave, never-married, widow, single again, etc.). If this is so, where did they all come from? And why do we not see them in the church?
Note, in larger cities the percentage is higher while in rural areas the number is much lower.

Why the recent explosion in the number of singles?

1. Young single adults (18-33) are postponing marriage as social values change.

They…

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I have been single my entire adult life. Because I am single, I have had a front row experience of how churches are reaching and growing singles adults. As a result, I have found that most churches simply did not know much about us nor how to reach us. After several years of serving on various single’s ministry leadership teams as well as starting my own, God called me to help others do the same. Specifically to help reach the church, the pastors and staff; to educate and provide resources so that ALL churches would know how to reach singles. 

Understand, unless you die when your spouse dies, every married person will experience being a single adult. Are you prepared for what life will bring? What about those in your life that are already single? Your child, your widowed parent or in-law, your divorced sibling or friend, or your neighbor who is parenting their children alone?

Single adults come in a variety of ages and life-stages. They are 19 still living at home with their parents, 29 with 3 kids that have different fathers, 35…

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Single WomanI have been single my entire adult life. Because I am single, I have had a front row experience of how churches are reaching and growing singles adults. As a result, I have found that most churches simply did not know much about us nor how to reach us. After several years of serving on various single’s ministry leadership teams as well as starting my own, God called me to help others do the same. Specifically to help reach the church, the pastors and staff; to educate and provide resources so that ALL churches would know how to reach singles.

While there are several large churches that have a singles pastor or director and are doing a great job in reaching and growing single adults, most churches do not. Most churches give various excuses such as:

We don’t have any single adults.
 Well this is because you either are not defining singles correctly or simply have not looked at your membership demographics (or the demographics of your area).  In most large cities in the US, single adults are out numbering the married’s. I know this might be a shock to you…

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