Many youth leaders are struggling with “youth group drama.” A hypersensitive clique of girls is mad at an insensitive clique of sarcastic boys (or vice verse or mix-and-match). Sides are taken. Words are spoken. Words are hurled. Feelings are hurt.
I’ve seen this happen at my son and daughter’s Christian school and literally tear groups of friends apart. You can feel it in the air at times, and it really shuts down your ability to minister effectively to your teenagers. Where there is bitterness and unforgiveness, the Spirit of God is hampered in his impact — and so are you.
So what’s the solution?
First of all, the drama needs to be dealt with in a real and effective way. The youth leader needs to become shepherd/moderator and sit the factions down to work it out. It’s not worked out until forgiveness is sought and granted. This is not always an easy or pleasant process. And sometimes perpetually unforgiving or offending teenagers may need to leave the group until they’re able to resolve it in their souls.
I’ll never forget being invited to a camp to speak. It was a weird situation because their original camp speaker double-booked and I…Continue Reading