After Tragedy, Help Your Congregation Ask, “What Can We Do Now?”


cross We live in a fallen world, and God’s will is not always done on earth.

Still, when we’re faced with such an immense tragedy as the shootings in Newtown, Connecticut, we are tempted to ask, “Why?”

But such questions are unanswerable – we simply don’t know.

Instead of asking, “Why?” we need to help our people ask, “What can I do now? What is my next step?”

As you know, the book of Nehemiah is about rebuilding after tragedy. Nehemiah tells the people, “You know well the tragedy of our city; it lies in ruins and its gates are burned. Let us rebuild the wall of Jerusalem and rid ourselves of this disgrace!” (Nehemiah 2:17 LB)

Rebuilding is much harder than building from scratch. It’s true for cities, and it’s true for our lives.

To help people rebuild their lives, we must help them understand this:

  • Express your grief. It is OK to mourn, but it is not good to resist, rehearse, reduce, or repress our grief.
  • Get help from others. The best way to do this is to get in a church and in a small group. Build a network of support to help you through your grief and recovery.
  • Refuse to be bitter. Becoming bitter or maintaining bitterness is a choice, one that will only destroy your life. Bitterness only prolongs the pain, so ask yourself, “Do I want to stay bitter or get better?” Pray for good to come out of the tragedy, for the comfort of God’s love, and for hope.
  • Clarify what matters most. You cannot change what has happened but you can live the remainder of your life focused on loving others and doing the things that are most important.
  • Rely on Jesus. We can lose everything, but there’s one thing that can’t be taken away – a relationship with Jesus Christ.

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  • joseph

    I had a dream earlier this year where demons where entering our atmosphere from a cone like cloud and they came out like water from a hose and the last drop was where I was standing…When the demon it the ground it just blended with the earth… every person with a little darkness in them became much darker and fights just broke out everywhere….I went home and prayed and found that only this prayer was my only protection.

    I suspect more of this to come….please prayer for our leaders from your pastors down to your president….Yes the pastor is more important than the president “if MY PEOPLE that are called by my name shall humble themselves..”…..GOD is not waiting on the president HE is waiting on HIS people…then HE will let the president think differently…please pray.

  • Steve Robinson

    One positive aspect of rebuilding is to campaign – and make a positive personal statement – for tighter controls on gun ownership

  • nicholas ndolo ndavi

    what a message, its great to hear this those points will help me all the days of my life and i will use them as a pastor to help others when they are in tragedy .God bless you and may He give you all it takes to impact more lives. pastor ndavi narok kenya

  • Andrew Mason

    Does anybody know if there is an organization or fund for any of the grieving families that a church could give to? Is that even a need for these Conn. families that have lost children?

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  • Kent

    Why? Because of us. We created all these things. But, as you said, we need to focus on what can we do now to stop it.

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