5 Things Winners Do and Don’t Do

By Derwin Gray

Bill WalshThe late Bill Walsh transformed the way football was played in the NFL by developing the “West Coast Offense.”

The NFL is what it is today because of him.  He is one of the fathers and architects of  Modern Day Football.

Under his leadership, the the San Francico 49er’s became the standard of excellence in the NFL.  Under Walsh, the 49er’s won Superbowls in 1981, 1984, and 1988.

But his first season with the 49er’s, he won 2 games and lost 14.

How do you go from 2-14 to 3 Superbowl victories?  Walsh in his book, “The Score Takes Care of Itself: My Philosophy of Leadership” explains how that transformation took place.

As leaders, we’d be wise to learn and implement his leadership wisdom.

The 5 Do’s

Do expect defeat.

It’s a given when you the stakes are high and the competition is working ferociously to beat you. If you’re suprised when it happens, you’re dreaming; dreamers don’t last long.

Do force yourself to stop looking backward and dwelling on the failure you’ve just been in.

It is mental quicksand to dwell too long on past failures and defeats.

Do allow yourself appropriate recovery and grieving time.

You’ve been knocked senseless; give yourself a little time to recuperate.  A key word is “little.”  Don’t let it drag on.

Do tell yourself, “I am going to stand and fight again, with the knowledge that often when things are at their worst you’re closer than you can imagine to success.”

The San Francisco 49er’s won the their first Superbowl 16 months after the 49er’s experienced a terrible game against the Dolphins.

Do plan for your next serious encounter.

The small steps–plans–move you forward on the road to recovery and success.

The 5 Don’ts

Don’t ask, “Why me?”

Don’t expect sympathy.

Don’t bellyache.

Don’t keep accepting condolences.

Don’t blame others.

Derwin Gray

Derwin L. Gray is the founding and Lead Pastor of Transformation Church, a multi-ethnic, multi-generational, mission-shaped community that loves God completely (Upward), ourselves correctly (Inward), and our neighbors compassionately (Outward) in Indian Land, South Carolina, just south of Charlotte, North Carolina. Transformation Church was recently recognized as one of the fastest growing churches in America for 2010 by Outreach Magazine.

Gray met his wife, Vicki, at BYU and has been married for 19 years. They have two children, Presley and Jeremiah. After graduating from Brigham Young University, he played professional football in the NFL for five years with the Indianapolis Colts (1993-1997) and one year with the Carolina Panthers (1998). Gray is the author of Hero: Unleashing God’s Power in a Man’s Heart (Summerside Press, 2009) and is a highly sought-after communicator. He’s also recognized by many as the Evangelism Linebacker. He’s had the honor of teaching in a variety of settings including Billy Graham Evangelistic Association events, the Billy Graham School of Evangelism, Exponential Conference, Simply Youth Ministry Conference, Greg Stier’s Dare 2 Share Ministries, Tommy Nelson Song of Solomon For Students Conferences and at universities and conferences around the country.