5 Reasons Your Church Should Serve Single Moms

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Single MomWith an estimated 15 million single mothers in the United States and numbers increasing daily, it is imperative that the local church have a thriving single mothers program. It is estimated that 67% of single mothers do not actively attend church.  As the church – the body of Christ – this should pain us. It should keep us up at night. Many single mothers do not feel they belong in the house of God. The fear that they will be judged. They are concerned that others will not understand their journey.

It is important that we understand that single mothers, like all of us, desire genuine connection and fellowship with those who best understand our situation. We all want to know that someone has walked the path we are currently on, and not only survived, but thrived.

So, why should we formalize a single moms’ ministry within the walls of our church?

  1. The Bible tells us so. We have been commissioned with certain duties by the Lord. Psalms 146:9 informs us “He cares for the widows and orphans.” Luke 14:13 challenges us to “invite the poor.”  1 Timothy 5:3 advises us to “take care of the widow.” The widow, many times, is the single mom. The orphans are left by a single mom. The poor are often single moms.
  2. Single parents are one of the fastest-growing sects of our population. What better way for our local churches to grow than to conect with the 9 million unchurched single mothers in the country? This respresents more than 20 million women and children and they are in our neighborhoods, grocery stores, and schools.
  3. Single moms need more than just a Christimas toy drive once per year for her children. They appreciate that sort of thing, but she desires sustained connection with the house of God. She longs to learn more about financial stewardship and parenting effectively. She needs long-term fellowship with other single mothers in similar seasons of life. She wants to know that she is not alone.
  4. A single moms’ ministry is NOT the same thing as a singles ministry. Singles ministries are co-ed environments. Many single mothers are recently divorced or vulnerable and need a private support group for women only. This allows the freedom to express concerns and hardships sans the added pressure of the opposite sex.
  5. And perhaps the most important point – single moms ministries DO NOT condone unwed pregnancy or divorce no more than addictions’ ministry condones drug use. We know God’s word calls us to live in sexual purity and that marriage was intended to last forever. We know that and embrace that, as believers. However, we cannot ignore that there are millions of single parent families that exist today. We must address the needs of those within our community who find themselves parenting alone.

Our mission on this earth, as Christians, is to populate Heaven and plunder Hell. We are to seek out the marginalized, hurting, broken, and poor. We are looking for those who do not know the love of the Father that we know. They do not know the Jesus that forgives all sin, erases all record of wrong, and loves unconditionally.


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About Jennifer Maggio

Jennifer Maggio is an award-winning author and speaker who has a passion to see single moms and women living the life God intended. She is founder of the global nonprofit, The Life of a Single Mom Ministries, a ground-breaking organization committed to equipping the church for single parent ministry. She is founder of Overwhelmed: The Single Moms Magazine and has been featured in countless media venues, including Focus on the Family, Daystar TV, The 700 Club, Crosswalk, Moody Radio, and many more. For more information, visit http://www.jennifermaggio.com.

  • frustration

    This article illustrates why 67% of us don’t attend church: judgmental congregation! I don’t need a toy drive, I didn’t have a child out of wedlock and i don’t care to be patronized or to have the congregation assume I’m spiritually inferior. I want a church home where my child and I are treated with the respect we earn. This article misses completely why I don’t attend. It’s because we feel like lepers with the undesirable pitty party. Can’t we just enjoy the service and fellowship like anyone else without the “oh poor dears” whispers and looks? Teach the word and worship: stay out of my family structure.

  • churchintv

    Thanks, Karen for the reminder of how important it is to minister to single parents!

    Also take a look at “Single & Parenting,” a church-based curriculum for single parents from Church Initiative (the ministry that produces DivorceCare and GriefShare). This is a new resource released last June. Information about starting a group at your church can be found at http://www.singleandparenting.org/startagroup

    Thanks

    Steve Grissom
    Founder
    Church Initiative

  • Pastorgaryforsyth

    Awesome! This very thing has been on my mind for 6 months now. My wife works for a secular counciling agency in our town and shared with me about their POP (pregnancy outreach program) and how it was badly funded and short staffed. The light went on in my head.
    I have a church full of people with great life skills and lots of love. There are very young single parents with out skills and starving for acceptance. How can you not grab that ministry with both hands.
    The plan is to start in the fall with the local counciling agency teaching us courses in mentoring, coaching, and the life skills. While I teach how to minister by coming along side to guide so that we can be apart of real change in people’s lives as well as demonstrat the Love of Christ. Once we have gained some confidance with the training we pair up single parent families with families from our church that have taken the training. The goals are simple, to see real lasting change in their lives, and pour out the love of God on them.

    • JenniferMaggio

      Be sure to visit http://www.thelifeofasinglemom.com, as our global nonprofit has helped to launch more than 450 single moms’ ministries in churches in 19 countries! We’d love to help with your training! God bless! Jennifer Maggio, founder, The Life of a Single Mom

  • Juliezstory

    what about single dads?

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