• Mike

    Thanks for posting this to increase awareness. I battled depression and suicidal thoughts for several years. It was more painful because I didn’t feel like I had the support of my church community. Looking back now I would offer a couple statements.

    To those battling depression:

    – You’re not alone. People who haven’t been through it won’t understand the pain. It’s real. Don’t let anyone minimize your feelings.

    – Get help. Medical and therapeutic. There are amazing advances science brings to help sort out any physiological and emotional issues.

    – Listen to your heart. Thomas Moore’s book “Dark Nights of the Soul” helped give me a different perspective on depression. Something incredible is happening to your soul and if you can lean into the pain you’ll find some amazing insights about yourself, the nature of God, and this world.

    To those around someone battling depression:

    – Don’t minimize it as sadness or the blues. Depression hurts. Really. Really. Bad. Imagine you have the flu but still have to do all the things you normally do. Now image someone is standing behind you and constantly saying, “You’re worthless. Nobody cares about you. The world would be better off without you.” That’s what depression feels like.

    – Don’t judge or condemn depression as sin. Pain is holy ground. Be willing to sit and just listen. Nothing more. Just remove the physical aloneness.

    – Don’t try to fix it. Treat depression like cancer. Sometimes a disease has a season of treatment to run through before going into remission. Be for the person while they are walking this path.